Marriage isn't easy. You're combining two completely different people for a lifetime, but it isn't always going to be happiness and sunshine. There are going to be tough times, lean times, and really hard times throughout your marriage. If you don't work on your marriage enough, you could be setting yourself up for failure. Read on for things you should do for a healthy marriage.
Housework and yard work shouldn't be his or hers jobs. You should be working together to get the things around the house done. If you notice the yard could be mowed and your spouse has been working late, mow it for your spouse. On the other hand, if your spouse is working late and there is a stack of laundry or the vacuuming hasn't been done lately, do this work for your spouse. Housework and yard work aren't gender specific jobs. These should be shared jobs and done by both spouses.
Share The Load
Just like housework and yard work should be shared, the stress of paying the bills should also be a shared job. All of the stress of paying bills or paying for anything that has to do with the household should be a shared load. Putting all of this stress on just one spouse can be a lot to deal with, which can put a lot of stress on you as a couple as well.
Make Date Night A Priority
If you can't remember the last time you've been out on a date, it's time to book that date. Date night should be a priority. Whether it's just you and your spouse or you as a couple out with other couples, this is an important time that can help alleviate daily stress on both of you and gives you time to reconnect. Leave the kids with a trusted sitter and make a date night that you both will enjoy. It doesn't even have to be at night. If you can schedule a day date, that works too. If money is a problem, make it a free date with hiking or a day at the beach. You don't have to spend a lot of money on your date, but it should be a priority.
Not arguing is just as bad as arguing all of the time. Be sure when you do argue it's in a calm manner. Leaving things bottled up is going to set you up for failure. Take a minute to think about what you have to say and to remain calm, then get your point across in a calm manner.
A healthy marriage is going to take work on both of your parts. If you need extra help, it's okay to talk to a marriage counselor. You have to be willing to work for your marriage and get help when needed.